Why so many couples now meet on their missions

Why so many couples now meet on their missions

Why so many couples now meet on their missions
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(Source: Mission Geek; By: Lindsey Williams) 

Thirty days after returning home from her mission in Berlin, Germany, Katelyn Duncan was engaged.

In LDS culture, being engaged that quickly is not uncommon. But what makes Katelyn’s story unusual is that she is engaged to her former district leader who she met on her mission in Berlin.

It’s been two years since the historic announcement lowering the age requirement for LDS young men and women to serve missions. While that announcement has helped the Church hasten the work, some unplanned outcomes may also be beginning to emerge as the first wave of “age-change” missionaries begin arriving home and prepare for marriage.

The math is pretty simple. Not only are the Elders and Sisters now closer in age, but also there are also more sisters than ever before. According to an article on the Church’s newsroom website, in the first year after the announcement lowering the ages for men and women to 18 and 19, respectively, the ratio of Elders to Sisters jumped from 6:1 to 3:1.

With those kind of numbers it probably shouldn’t be surprising that more and more couples are finding their ‘beginnings’ in the mission field, but the question is, is it right?

While Katelyn was serving in Berlin, she met her now husband, Brad Duncan. He was her third district leader.

“I instantly admired him for being such a stellar missionary,” Katelyn said. “Admiration is kind of dangerous for missionaries and grew into more significant feelings. Simultaneously, Brad’s admiration for me grew equally more significant, and so we told our mission president immediately about our significant feelings.”

When transfer calls came, Katelyn went to Dresden and Brad stayed in Berlin…

Read more at Mission Geek


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  1. This is alright if you are from the same country, you are making a financial burden on yourself and future family if you aren’t, because when the exciting first love fades, people want to visit families, people miss mums and dads, languages and traditions become a problem

    • Loraine, I understand what you mean about the challenges of marrying someone from a different country. I am currently living outside the US (where I was born) and married to a wonderful young woman from a different country. It isn’t easy, she is still learning English, and the culture differences can be difficult to deal with sometimes, but there ins’t a day that goes by that I regret my decision. I know that it was made in faith and that the Lord answered our prayers, saying we should do this. The blessings have far outweighed the difficulties, the challenges have helped us grow, our differences make us a more complete couple, and Skype is an amazing way to see family and friends from afar.
      Before my mission I was adamant. I wouldn’t even consider going out with a girl I met on my mission, especially if it were someone from a different country. But the Lord had different plans. In the end that is what really matters. We have to be sure that we are doing His will and supporting anyone brave enough to follow it even when others don’t think it is right. Not that you are saying what they are doing isn’t right, I mean that there are people out there that do think so, which means these young couples need all the support they can get. In my ward alone there are four couples (one is myself) where the husband was an elder that served in the ward and moved back to marry a girl from the ward, and one more couple with a similar story to the one above. I am the Elder’s quorum president, one works at the MTC and is the Young Men’s president, and another is the bishop’s counselor.

  2. I guess this is now deemed acceptable. Kind of goes against the whole lock your heart talk given by Spencer w Kimball. Look it up. Clearly these missionaries weren’t that dedicated to the work.

  3. Now I’m serving…… I understood what Loraine, Reed and Steeve said!!!!
    I know that the leaders tell us that we must be married with the woman or man of our own country!!!! There is true!!!
    But in all laws the spirit is the guardian of all exceptions!!!
    Nephi was oblige to kill Laban because he followed the spirit!!!
    But We must not confound the spirit’s feelings and love’s feelings when we are serving on mission!!!!
    The rule is to be married with people of our own country but exceptions can be found!! But we must not consider all situations as exceptions!!!!

  4. My husband and I served in the same mission, we never served around each other , he said that at my first zone conference he approached me and said: welcome to the mission sister. I don’t even remember that. After I finished my mission I started to recieve friend requests from my mission friends, I became friends with him and he said he remember talking to me as a missionary I told him I did not remember, my second transfer on the mission I was transferred to an area that had 1 set of Elders and 1 set of sisters he was one of the elders, but the same day I got there he got transferred out (keep in mind that by this time I don’t even know the elder) so I found out about this after I came home and we became friends after the mission. I am grateful I did not meet him there, I am grateful I don’t even remember talking to him as a missionary. I was blessed with the opportunity to serve an honorable mission and stay focused and keep my heart locked, though that does not keep people from judging us when they asked us how we met and we say we served in the same mission, people like to judge, I know my story is very different they those that actually meet while on their missions and develope feelings there. I am a big fan of “locking your heart as while you are a missionary” but is is not my place to judge those mission friends that served around each other and develope feelings and go on to get married right after their missions.

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