Here are some of the best LDS Pick-up lines around.
“What’s your favorite temple? I’m looking at mine!”
“A date with me is like a temple, and you have a recommend.”
“I was reading the Book of Numbers last night, and I realized I don’t have yours.”
“I will treat you how I treat my scriptures. With care and love.”
“You are my Pearl of Great Price.”
“Are you the iron rod? Cause I wanna hold onto you for the rest of eternity.” -1 Nephi8:24 “And it came to pass that I beheld others pressing forward, and they came forth and caught hold of the end of the rod of iron; and they did press forward through the mist of darkness, clinging to the rod of iron, even until they did come forth and partake of the tree.”
“The tree of life called. It wants its sweetness back.” –1 Nephi 8: 10-11 “And it came to pass that I beheld a tree whose fruit was desireable to make one happy. And it came to pass that I did go forth and partake of the fruit thereof; and I beheld that it was most sweet, above all that I ever before tasted.”
“You remind me of the fruit in Lehi’s dream. You are the most precious of all.” –1 Nephi: 15:36 “Wherefore, the wicked are rejected from the righteous, and also from that tree of life, whose fruit is most precious and most desireable above all other fruits.”
After a lot of prayer and fasting, I was told not to serve a mission.
Accepting the answer “no” was extremely difficult, but at the same time God told me that there were reasons why, and that I would know what they were in due time. Let me tell you the reasons why I’m so grateful I listened.
**Editor’s Note: This article was written by Claire Pincock and has been published in full by her request.
God Still Used Me As an Instrument to Bless His Children Pretty soon after I would have left on my mission, I met a boy with serious depression. While he had had people to support him, at that point he felt very alone because he was tired of hurting his friends. Four months into my “mission”, I was able to calm him down twice from suicidal thoughts. Throughout our relationship I helped to show him God’s love for him. I helped to show him that he was worth love and life and that he deserved happiness. God put me in his life, and I was an instrument in His hands to bring my friend happiness.
I Still Learned A Lot About Myself I dated a lot while on my “mission”. I moved into a very social single’s ward and went on more dates than I can count. Most of them were just casual, fun, friendly double dates. I learned so much about the difference between what I thought I needed and wanted in a man and what I actually needed and wanted. I also learned my strengths in relationships. I learned not only who is good for me, but who I am good for. This has been instrumental in my life.
I Married My Best Friend Because I didn’t get to serve, I diligently wrote a lot of my friends who did. I told them that I wanted to have the mission experience through them. I developed wonderful relationships with them and got to know who they were very personally. I would email one of my friends back and forth when he was online until his mission disallowed that. A year into my “mission”, that friend came home. I was so ecstatic. I couldn’t get to my hometown until nearly 10 at night, but we talked until 2 in the morning. He was just as ecstatic as I was. Because of that night and more dating experiences shortly after, I realized that this man, who had been my friend my whole life, was exactly who I was looking for. We were engaged before I would have gotten home.
I Learned a Foreign Language Anyway There were many other wonderful advantages from listening to God’s plan for me. I found a major I love, and I have had irreplaceable experiences in my classes and doing research in my field. I went on a study abroad and learned my grandpa’s native language. I got to see the house he was born in and learn more about his culture. I got really into family history and have taken countless names to the temple with my friends and family. I developed a really close relationship with my mom as we would do this work together. I wouldn’t trade that year-and-a-half for anything.
I Felt Misunderstood and It Wasn’t Easy
It hasn’t always been easy. It was extremely difficult to say goodbye to all of my friends. I was sad to watch them go and a bit jealous that I didn’t get to. I’ve been in a room filled with just RMs and me, and it can be difficult while everyone shares in their wonderful experiences. I’ve been rejected by boys who want an RM. I’ve been looked down on by my leaders for not serving (very rarely, and not intentionally, but it’s happened). I’ve been asked countless times why I’m not on my mission. I’ve even had people question my answer. I’ve been told that God would never say no to a mission, so maybe I’m interpreting Him incorrectly. I’ve been told that I know less about the gospel because I didn’t serve a mission. People don’t mean to hurt. They don’t really understand that fight that I went through. They don’t understand how badly I wanted to go, and they don’t understand why these things could be hurtful. It’s always been clear to me that the church does not see us as second-class members, but people aren’t perfect, and sometimes you might be treated that way.
Luckily, there have also been a countless number of people who respect my decision and respected me for it. There have been so many people who see the reality of my spirit and my love of this church despite not serving. I’m actually grateful for those dating rejections because even if I had served a mission, that isn’t the kind of person I needed to marry. My husband looks up to me as I look up to him. He respects my spiritual insights despite the fact that he had I name badge and I never did. I’m also so grateful for my friends and family who did serve, especially my fellow sisters. It hasn’t always been easy, but I’ve learned to set aside my pride and rejoice at every call my friends receive. I rejoice in their service and in their joy, just as I hope that they rejoice in mine even though it’s different.
God Knew I Didn’t Need a Mission. I Needed to Stay Home, and That’s Okay Six months after I would have gotten home, I’m so glad I didn’t serve. God had a much more beautiful plan for me. I didn’t need a mission. I needed to stay home, and that’s okay. Every member needs to pray and find out for themselves. While I would have been serving, I’ve almost finished my education, I went through the temple for this first time, I got married to the love of my life, and I’ve done so many other wonderful things I wouldn’t trade for the world.
Most Importantly, I Listened to God So, if you’re a guy or girl who came home early or couldn’t serve, if you got the answer no and listened, or even God told you it was your choice and you chose no, as long as you are listening to God’s plan for you, you will be happier than if you had followed the plan which you made for yourself. Even if it’s nothing like His plan for me (if it doesn’t include dating or marriage or an education), you will be happier than if you hadn’t have listened.
I used to have this delusion that once you put a name tag on you undergo a fundamental internal change, as if you have a new identity—all desires to do wrong disappear, all knowledge of the scriptures floods your mind, and every romantic inclination is whisked away with one handshake from your mission president.
This is not the case. I felt nothing but culture shock when I put my name tag on, having just arrived in South Africa at the Missionary Training Center. Unfortunately, though you are a set apart servant of Jesus Christ, you are still merely a young single adult, one of “the weak and the simple” (D&C 1:23), and hormones do not take a break for 18-24 months. Navigating your romantic feelings on a mission can be one of the more challenging things you may face.
While these feelings are natural, Satan uses them as a tool to make you feel guilty or inadequate—feelings that are already pervasive when you are part of something so much bigger than your mortal shortcomings can amount to. The truth is, when you are surrounded by young men of your same age and stage striving with all their might to serve the Lord, it isn’t easy to suppress feelings of admiration and love.
As you come closer to the Lord it is in the very order of the universe that “virtue loveth virtue” and “light cleaveth unto light” (D&C 88:40). But the beauty of a mission is that it challenges you to learn to harness those feelings and control your passions; to accept God’s will for you and His timing (for there is “a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing” (Eccl 3:5)). The skill of self-control will bless you throughout your life, both as a single and married person.
Because of the drama surrounding letters and emails, P-day became a day of mixed emotions when I was serving my mission. Some missionaries loved getting emails and letters, but others dreaded emails and letters. Why did some love letters and others dread them?
Because some emails and letters are full uplifting messages from family and friends. But some emails and letters were full of bad news, or drama that stressed us out or made us homesick. In one of my areas, we joked about skipping emails altogether! Because of all the negativity that came from the letters we talked about how we wished everyone would stop emailing us about certain things. Here are the 5 Topics To Avoid Writing Your Missionary:
1. “When You Get Home”
When a missionary gets near the end of their mission they are trying super hard to focus on the work, and not get “trunky”. The closer it gets the harder it becomes. It is extremely hard to do so when you’re getting emails that keep pulling your thoughts to “When you get home…” At one point on my mission, it got so bad I replied. “I am a missionary now, I’ll talk about home when I get home.”
I knew many missionaries that the last 2 transfers they just gave up, they got “Trunky”. They mentally were home, but physically on the mission still. It was just awful. The work would stall, and everyone was hurt due to trunky missionaries. Please help us focus, don’t email us about when we come home, ask us about the area! You should plan for things like college ahead of time.
I dated a wonderful man for two years before I left on my mission. He was determined to wait for me while I served because he was certain that he wanted to marry me when I got home. I was thrilled that he felt that way, in fact, I felt the same, but I worried about the logistics of maintaining a long-distance non-relationship as a full time missionary. What were the odds this was really going to work out?
My first Sunday in the MTC, our Branch Presidency held a devotional. One of the members of the Presidency, Brother Stoddard, got up to speak to us. “I’m not here to give a traditional talk about a gospel principle,” he said. “I’m here to address any Elder or Sister who has someone waiting for them at home.” I was stunned. I couldn’t believe this issue, the very one I was facing, was being addressed. I knew the Lord was aware of my circumstances and I was eager to hear the message. “Most people will tell you to write them off, call it off, break up with them, and just focus on your mission, and they might be right,” he continued. “But I’m here to tell you that if you do it right, if you maintain a proper relationship and do this the right way, having that person at home can and will make you a better missionary.
I couldn’t believe what I was hearing! I was so excited to hear that I wasn’t making a mistake, that I could still be a good missionary even if I had someone at home. Just when I was feeling on top of the world, Brother Stoddard brought me back to reality. He informed us that statistically speaking, only 3% of “waiting-for-a-missionary” arrangements actually end up working out and leading to marriage. That was a punch to the gut, to say the least, but he followed up that disheartening fact with what he called his three ways to be a 3%er. These three tips remain, to this day, some of the greatest pieces of advice I have ever received. So, if you have someone waiting for you at home, or are planning to have someone wait for you, and you want to have a successful mission and a successful relationship, here are the three things you may want to consider…
Sometimes being in love is absolutely miserable. In fact, I’ve found that misery often comes hand in hand with love. That is why some of the most famous love stories are surrounded with the most terrible tragedy. A clear example is the classic story of Les Miserables, where Marius finally finds the love of his life, the perfect match to be his companion for the rest of his days, Cosette, much to the chagrin of Eponine, the girl next door with a crazy crush on the guy.
I had the not-so-unique experience of having the boy I was crushing on (and I had assumed was crushing on me) start dating my best friend. This was the first time this had ever happened to me, and I was unprepared for the onslaught of emotions I was about to experience. I understood that my feelings of jealousy were not very Christlike. I also knew that this was not how my
Heavenly Father wanted me to feel.
I want to share some of the things I learned from this experience and how I overcame the jealously, something that can be difficult. These are based on my personal experience, but I hope the tips here can be applied in a variety of relationships.
Here’s how to avoid being the Eponine in your relationships:
Hope is the key!
The biggest thing that made people pity Eponine was the lack of hope in her situation. It wasn’t fair that she couldn’t have her happily ever after! But the truth is, Eponine wasn’t showing any hope at all. To quote Preach My Gospel, “Hope is manifest in confidence, optimism, enthusiasm and patient perseverance.” Some were surprised to see me doing my best to manifest these attributes when I was a victim to, what I felt was, such injustice, but I knew I wasn’t the victim and I didn’t want to be the victim. All I wanted was to not feel so awful, and I knew I needed to fight my despair with hope. The pity of others will not get you through the heartache. What will get you through is the hope that comes through Christ. Have hope that the Lord has hand selected your trials to make you into the masterpiece you were destined to be. Have hope that your Heavenly Father has a wonderful life planned out for you, as long as you stay close to Him and follow His lead. Have hope that your love will come at last and that he/she will be worth the wait. So when the natural man seeks out pity, seek for hope.
Before my mission and during my mission I was a huge advocate for sisters serving missions. If a girl told me she was going to leave a boyfriend to serve a mission I supported that decision. In my mind nothing could be better than a mission. If things were truly meant to be between the girl and her boy, it would work out.
It’s weird. Now that I’ve been a missionary my thoughts have actually changed. I loved being a full-time missionary and I know it was part of God’s plan for me. I still smile when people from my mission call me “Hermana Williams.” But now I look forward to the time when I get the eternal titles of “wife” and “mother.”
Chances are you, or someone you know, will eventually face the question of, “Should I stay with my boyfriend or should I serve a mission?”
Luckily for you, you found this article. Now I’m going to give you the exact way to figure out how to choose between a boyfriend and a mission. Are you ready for this?
Hahaha, just kidding. There is no exact way. But, I am going to give you the best advice I can to help you make this decision….
With the amount of missionaries being called into the field, there will likely be a lot of hopeful young men and women waiting and writing their faithful missionary friends. Are you one? Here are a few tips to help you.
Waiting for a Missionary
Have you created a countdown chart yet? Did you download the LDS Missionary countdown app on your smartphone? 🙂 I don’t blame you if you did. If you are dating someone who is a voluntary servant of the Lord and who desires to serve God full-time for as long as missionaries do, you have found a winner! Hold on to them (if you can). Here are some tips on how you can keep your relationship strong across the seemingly un-ending time you will be waiting for them.
1. Provide Spiritual Support their Whole Mission – Be a “True Friend”
They will be constantly on the spiritual rise and if you don’t rise with them, you will most likely grow apart. They will still remember the shared experiences you have, but they will have a new love for the gospel and for The Lord that may draw you apart if you do not truly have that same love and passion for the gospel. Elder Robert D. Hales gives the perfect example of what you should do. He says you should be a “true friend” and then he defines what a true friend is:
“1. A good friend is a good companion. A good friend will never have you choose between their way and the Lord’s way. 2. With a true friend it will be easier to live the laws, ordinances, and covenants [of the gospel]. Such a person is truly a good friend and an eternal companion.”1
Never make them choose between your way and the Lord’s way (these should be the same) and it should be easier for them to live and serve as a full time missionary because of you, not the opposite.
2. Become Spiritually Stronger as they Become Stronger, Because They Will.
If you really want to make things work out, this will help you come closer than any mushy love letter. Read and listen to talks. Get the Mormon Channel app on your phone and listen to that instead of your favorite playlists. Go to the temple more than you usually do. Go out of your way to serve in your ward – be the best darn home / visiting teacher this church has ever known. Go into the mountains to pray and commune with God (or somewhere private). Write in your journal. Do family history. Go on a temple roadtrip. Do online missionary work! Go talk to your bishop even if you don’t have sins to confess, just talk to him and ask what you can do to help in the ward or if there is anyone he knows who needs to be served. Sit towards the front in sacrament meeting and in your classes. Participate and come prepared. Go to institute or religion classes regularly. Memorize scriptures. Ask God to bless you with spiritual experiences to match the ones your sweetheart is having. Grow. Progress. Become. Not only will this bless your relationship with Elder Right or Sister Superstar, but more importantly, it will improve your relationship with God.
3. Do NOT Send Mushy Love Letters!
Just don’t do it. I can’t emphasize this more. The mission call (from the prophet) is pretty clear about this. “Leaving behind all other personal affairs.” The honest truth is that a letter going into depth about how you remember that time when you cuddled under the stars and had your first kiss and other romantic intimate moments that you may have experienced together is just plain inappropriate. Romance is not bad. It is great! And after their mission is through, I’m sure it will be even better!
Just think about it this way, for every distracting love letter you send, you may be taking away from the work that they are there to do. The work they have been commissioned by a prophet of God to fulfill. To invite others to come unto Christ. Everyone is different, (and feel free to disagree with me here), but when a missionary gets one of those letters, it could be a few days before they snap out of the distraction that this creates. Anytime they see a person of the opposite sex they will probably think about you. And if their mind is not single to the work, there are things that they might miss, contacts they may not make, lessons they may not teach, and people they may not help to come unto Christ. Not to mention the conflict this may cause within the companionship. Like it or not, the companionship they should be most focused on is the one that they are assigned to as a missionary. Not yours. And most likely, the one they are in with their missionary companion may already have enough drama to worry about and resolve. Please, provide spiritual uplifting and spiritual support. Not romantic distraction. Please, no cologne/perfume or lipstick on letters. Enough said.
I submit to you that the thing that will make you fall in (lasting) love more than any other will be this: become a missionary yourself. I’m not saying to go and apply for full-time missionary service with your bishop (though I am not saying that you shouldn’t! – pray about it, if you feel it is right). I AM saying that you should seek to do missionary work right now. In your situation and sphere of influence. And if you live in Utah and feel like there is nothing to do and you can’t really do missionary work, then please read this article about what you can do right now to be a missionary online. I promise you that the degree to which you focus on becoming a missionary will be the degree to which you are blessed in your life and in your relationship with all people–Not just your significant other who is serving. Think of the good you can do. For those in your own sphere as well as for the one you care about who is serving a mission. This will help you become true friends, as Elder Hales taught above.
Please don’t take this to mean that love or romance is bad. And that showing your love to a full-time missionary sweetheart is a negative thing. It is not. I’m only saying that we should be careful the way we express that love. John Groberg was in love with his sweetheart while serving a mission in the Pacific islands. (If you haven’t seen the movie about his mission called “The Other Side of Heaven”, it’s a classic). Consider his story of how true love motivated him and even saved his life while he was serving a full-time mission.
“We were caught in another violent storm, only this time at sea. The waves became so big they flipped our small boat over, throwing the three of us into the raging, churning ocean. When I found myself in the middle of a tumultuous sea, I was surprised, scared, and a little upset. ‘Why has this happened?’ I thought. ‘I’m a missionary. Where is my protection? Missionaries aren’t supposed to swim.’ But swim I must if I wished to stay alive. Every time I complained I found myself underwater, so it didn’t take long to quit complaining. Things are how they are, and complaining doesn’t help. I needed every ounce of energy to keep my head above water and make it to shore. Having earned my Eagle Scout Award, I was a pretty confident swimmer, but over time the wind and the waves began to sap my strength. I never quit trying, but there came a time when my muscles simply would move no more. I had a prayer in my heart, but still I began to sink. As I was going down for what could have been the last time, the Lord infused into my mind and heart a deep feeling of love for a very special person. It was as though I could see and hear her. Even though she was 8,000 miles away, the power of that love came rushing across those miles and, penetrating time and space, reached down and pulled me up—lifted me from the depths of darkness, despair, and death and brought me up to light and life and hope. With a sudden burst of energy I made it to shore, where I found my shipmates. Never underestimate the power of true love, for it knows no barriers.”
Serving a full-time mission is not an easy thing to do. There are storms to swim through that are so daunting that they nearly drown the missionary. The love you send can strengthen and lift that missionary. Communicate love through the filter of the Savior’s desire for all people to come unto Him and you will empower your serving friend to accomplish mighty miracles.
I understand that this article may be a bit controversial. I’m fine with that. I just know that generally, this advice will really help the work move forward. And I also know – absolutely – that if you apply the above principles of drawing closer to them spiritually more than any other thing, you will come closer than you ever could have by being a romantic distraction. This will bless you both.
Your Faith has EVERYTHING to do with your Romance
The closer you become spiritually (during their mission and after they return), the stronger your bonds will be. I conclude with Elder Holland’s words:
“You want capability, safety, and security in dating and romance, in married life and eternity? Be a true disciple of Jesus. Be a genuine, committed, word-and-deed Latter-day Saint. Believe that your faith has everything to do with your romance, because it does. You separate dating from discipleship at your peril. Or, to phrase that more positively, Jesus Christ, the Light of the World, is the only lamp by which you can successfully see the path of love and happiness for you and for your sweetheart.” 2